Have you ever experienced a time in your life where one moment seemed as though it would last forever? Stop and think for a second to see if you can bring one up.
Perhaps it was a moment with a friend or a child. It could be a moment with the current love of your life, or perhaps an old one. Sometimes it a solitary moment, shared with a particularly beautiful sunrise, or of experiencing a truly breath-taking view. What was yours?
There is also another kind of timeless moment, which is brought about by a profound realization or epiphany. Perhaps it is a moment of realization concerning how you feel about someone else, or something else in your life, or even about yourself. The moment can sometimes be a moment of shattering illusions, as you allow yourself to step beyond a limiting belief you were holding onto about yourself, someone else in your life, or even the world in general.
So again, I ask you to stop for a moment and ask yourself, what have been the sweetest moments in your life, whether they were pure sweetness or bittersweet — the ones where a moment seemed to last forever and you will remember always.
If you are having trouble remembering such moments, don’t feel bad. Some people I have asked this question to couldn’t think of a single of one.
So why do some people have a plethora of those moments, while other people struggle to remember just one? Connectedness. Simply connectedness. Very simply, the more we can allow ourselves to be fully into a moment, the more likely it is that any moment will become one of those special moments; the moments in which time seems to stop and last forever.
Your first thoughts about this concept may be: “Yeah right! I live in the real world and there are far too many things going on to constantly focus on just one moment.” I understand. However, are you very sure that it is the world that keeps you from being able to focus your attention fully into a single moment, or do you simply not know how? As a society, we begin the process of overwhelming our senses at an early age.
For example, just look at what goes on during the average Christmas morning. There is so much going on with all the presents and excitement that it is nearly impossible to focus on any one part of the experience and preserve it as a cherished memory. Often times, people do not fully connect to any moment because they have never learned how.
Connection of any kind can frighten us. It can make us feel terribly vulnerable or sometimes lacking, feeling as though we should do something, but not sure what that something is. Because if we do know how to truly connect to a person, a moment, a realization or an experience, then even if we can’t feel as though we are capable of being connected in every moment, we can pick and chose some moments to connect with. Perhaps moments we suspect might have the qualities that will make it likely to be a “sweetest moment” — if we could only stay connected while we are experiencing it.
And if it turns out not to be? Well at the very least, the moment will be sweeter because we were more fully aware of it, and that’s not bad either.